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Offering a Shoulder: How to Support Someone Who Has Experienced a Miscarriage

Miscarriage, the loss of a pregnancy before the 20th week, is a deeply personal and often silent grief experienced by many. It's a loss that comes not only with profound sadness but also with a myriad of complex emotions. If someone you know is going through this, your support can be a beacon of light in their time of darkness. Here are some ways you can offer your support:

1. Acknowledge Their Loss

Recognising the gravity of their loss is the first step. Use empathetic words that convey your understanding and respect for their grief. Avoid platitudes and instead, offer genuine condolences.

2. Listen with Compassion

Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is to listen. Allow them to express their feelings without judgment. Remember, there's no right or wrong way to feel in these circumstances.

3. Respect Their Grieving Process

Grieving is a personal journey that varies greatly from person to person. Some may seek solitude, while others might find comfort in company. Respect their wishes and give them the space or companionship they desire.

4. Offer Practical Help

Offering to help with daily tasks can be a great relief. Whether it's running errands, cooking meals, or helping with other children, your assistance can provide a much-needed break.

5. Encourage Professional Support

Encourage them to seek professional help if they are open to it. Therapy can provide a safe space to process complex emotions and develop coping strategies.

6. Remember Significant Dates

Marking the dates that are significant to them, like the expected due date or the date of the miscarriage, can show that you remember and honour their loss.

7. Encourage Them to Honour Their Loss

Encouraging them to find their own way to honour their loss can be healing. It might be through a personal ritual, creating art, or planting a tree in memory of the lost baby.

8. Be Patient

Healing takes time. Be patient and understand that their journey to recovery might be slow and non-linear.

9. Educate Yourself

Learn about the physical and emotional impacts of miscarriage to better understand what your loved one is going through.

10. Seek Support for Yourself

Supporting someone through a loss can also be emotionally taxing. Don't hesitate to seek support for yourself to better assist your loved one.

At Stable Minds, we understand the profound impact of a miscarriage on an individual and their family. We are here to stand with you, offering a hand to hold as you walk this challenging path. We are proud to offer a fully funded support group and one-on-one sessions, generously funded by the National Lottery. These support groups run bi-weekly, providing a safe and nurturing space to share and heal collectively. Additionally, we offer up to six one-on-one sessions for each client, allowing for a more personal and focused approach to healing.

Remember, in the face of loss, the strength of community and the power of empathy can be healing forces. Together, we can build a network of support, understanding, and love.

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